only semi-related but this morning I was listening to talk radio drivel on my school commute and they were talking about how America is a society built for individuals, not communities and I was very much relating it to the hospital birth experience. You go, with your one allowed adult, deliver a baby, and stay in the care of your doctor, isolated from your family and community for like 3 days. When you get home it's almost like you were sick, and people don't want to "disturb" you as you "recover." I feel like even with my homebirth there was a strong feeling of not wanting to bother me with company. No one came to visit, my one friend who came over stopped in for like ten minutes and kept saying "I'm leaving, I'm leaving, I know you need to rest!" It was not AT ALL the celebration I wanted for Rainer at birth. I had the realization as my dad held Rainer at his house that he was the only other person to have held him other than Ryan and me and his mom, once. That shit ain't right.
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Date: 2013-01-16 01:42 am (UTC)